Best Friends Forever: A Magic Moment

I’ve written before (here, and also here) about how Ellie seemed to be going through a ‘girly’ phase, how she’d told Jake that he was no longer her best friend, & that it was instead a girl from their little playgroup.  Jake seemed a bit sad when she told him, as he said Ellie was still his best friend.

On Saturday while I was in the kitchen making lunch for them, I heard this wafting in from the lounge:

Jake: “So I’m your best friend now?”

Ellie: “Yes”

Jake: “I’ve always loved you”

Ellie: “And I love you”

I walked in on a great big cwtch.

My eyes met with Jake’s & we shared a smile…

Definitely a Magic Moment :)

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A message from Jake

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Jake & Ellie brought back some great pictures from pre-school this week; this was one.

“From the mouths of babes & infants”?

Or their colouring pens, at least.

And I’m really pleased with how good with their colouring-in is now :)

All Change! Jake & Ellie’s first day at school

Yesterday was Jake & Ellie’s first day at pre-school. The 3rd stage of their young lives has begun: they were babies, they’ve been toddlers and now they’re pre-schoolers.

It was harder & sadder than both us expected I think. The image of them both walking away into their new classroom holding hands with their teacher, 1 on each side, will stay with me for a very long time.

They didn’t even say goodbye. I think they were expecting us to be there for the first few minutes at least, as was I. The other parents said goodbye at the ramp leading up to the door & didn’t go in with their children so we didn’t either.

I wasn’t even sure what size group they were in. At first I thought they were just in a little group of 4 newbies –  just them & their 2 best friends from Karen’s little group – but I have since learned that they’ve already joined the 20 or so children who were already there from last year. That’s a really big change for them! Especially as they join all the other, bigger & rowdier, schoolchildren when they go to play outside

They’ve been with Karen’s little group this last year as preparation, and I think it’s worked well. They’ve adjusted really well to it from spending most of their time with either me or the Mummy in their first 2 years, but this is a big step up.

And for me it feels as if I’m handing over control over what my children see & do to people I know very little about, & who are also strangers to Jake & Ellie.

“Trust”. That’s such a big word when it comes to your children.

Over the next few weeks they’ll gradually increase the number of days & hours they spend there until September. They are then expected to attend full-time; however we’re not at all comfortable with that: they’re just too young.

I don’t really know what they did there. With Karen we could always find out what they did, whether or not they’d used the loo, if there were any accidents (usually not!), whether or not they’d had a nap (usually not!), what they’d eaten, etc. About yesterday I didn’t have much of a clue! To be fair I probably just could have asked the teacher there as they seem very open. I asked Ellie instead, & she was a little vague!

The teacher did tell us that Ellie had had a little cry, very briefly, but not Jake: the opposite of what we had expected. Ellie told me that she didn’t like the teacher! It seems that she had been stopped from doing something she wanted to do & asked to do something else: which I later found out was that she didn’t want to line up! I think it probably had a lot to do with going outside with all the 40-odd older children too. I can imagine it being quite overwhelming. Ellie very often however is a girl who doesn’t like being told what to do!

I can’t imagine where she might get that from.

They seemed happy afterwards anyway, so that’s got to be a good sign. Ellie especially, as you can see, was in high spirits!

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You know how you try to get a photo of your darling sweet twins in their new uniforms after their first day of school, & expect then to be all cute & smiley? Very little ever goes to plan with children does it?

My children started school on the day they buried Lady Thatcher. And yes: there was milk there, and it was free.

It really does feel like the end of era, & a new beginning.

 

It’s good to talk, but does it have to be now?!

Warning: this post may contain traces of poo. 

The twins have quite a Roman attitude towards the toilet. Ellie, in particular, seems to see doing one’s business as a social event.

In the demarcation of duties between me & the Mummy the role of ‘Toilet Attendant’ somehow seems to have gone on my CV.  I think ‘Skilful Negotiator’ is very probably on hers…

When she’s on her throne Ellie likes to chat, with me.

I say “likes to chat”; I really mean “insists on chatting”. She can be very determined: “Daddy, come & have a chat with me! Sit there!”. It is my place to sit on the side of the bath. So we can “chat”.

And actually it’s alright; nice even. She’s mature enough & skilled enough in language now that we can have something like a “So how was your day?” conversation. With a little extra, sometimes uncomfortable, punctuation. And some slightly odd facial expressions.

I’ll ask her what she did today, & what she liked the most. And, after a bit of prompting, she can answer. I still really haven’t got used to my little babies, who for so long could only cry & gurgle, now having proper little conversations with us!

And as someone who isn’t naturally talkative or outgoing it adds extra demands on me, & adds to my skill set. And so is very good for me as well!

Of course the opposite is true too. When the Mummy or I have to answer nature’s call Jallie see it as an open invitation. They really can’t understand why we might want privacy.

Well we tweet from there don’t we? (Or so I’m told). And they don’t have a twitter account (yet) so why not? I guess.

Which reminds me: I really must get that lock fixed…

Wot So Funee?

More Farm Fun!

We managed to cram so much into our Easter weekend that I haven’t managed to post about it all yet! Especially as I think, with trying to do something great each day, we’d saved the best ’til last. On the Monday we went to Folly Farm Adventure Park & Zoo, in Pembrokeshire. This was one of the main attractions: 1-DSC00388-001 1-DSC00391

Peppa was there too of course. But actually I think they’d lost interest before she turned up. I think they’d sussed it. Jake said to us later at home: “It wasn’t George was it? It was a man dressed up”.* I couldn’t resist saying “Jake is a clever-clogs”…

So next we headed to the farm vehicle playground, full of all sorts of pretend heavy-duty things to pretend to drive, & miniature diggers you could move sand around from. They loved it  BUT IT WAS VERY COLD. Easily the coldest day of the long weekend. Although we would have preferred not to we’d have stayed outside if Jake & Ellie had wanted to, but by common consent we soon decided to see what the indoor attractions held for us.

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The trouble was it that seemed that everyone else had much the same idea: it was extremely crowded! By this time we needed lunch; just finding food was trouble enough, then finding somewhere to eat it even worse. We had to settle for eating standing up at the side of a walkway.

Jake & Ellie hugely enjoyed the trick mirrors we found after lunch; they’d never seen anything like that before & were fascinated 1-DSC00409 Then we found some more big vehicles to drive. But they had competition this time!

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“This is worse than the 7.50 to King’s Cross!”

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Jake, bus-driver!

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“Why do they never sit down where they’re supposed to?!”

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“Who are you? I’m the driver here!”

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“Ahhh, alone at last! Now I can put my feet up!”

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” I like tractors, I do”

There were farm animals there too, & small ‘wild’ animals in a separate building, but they were much less interested in them this time than when we visited last year. They were mad for the driving!

There was a huge indoor old-fashioned fun-fair indoors, which they loved even more, including a big, beautiful & ornate carousel. Unfortunately we didn’t get any good pictures of that. This ride was also a big hit: 1-DSC00435 1-DSC00438 Another special attraction was a children’s magic show. They had never been out to anything for which they’d have to sit still for any length of time so we weren’t sure how they’d react. But they loved it! The guy was very good, a children’s entertainer with a few basic tricks. They joined in with the “behind you!” stuff with great enthusiasm. There was also a particularly entertaining game of musical chairs between the magician & some Dads, which was eventually won by a man named Ziggy. Presumably a Bowie fan, or at least the son of one! Jake is such a sensitive soul! He cried terribly at the end, saying “I want more magic!”. He got to stroke the rabbit that had popped out of the hat, & that seemed to calm him down enough.

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Image from folly-farm.co.uk

As we were leaving it was the best we could do to dissuade them from going down the huge helter-skelter outside. Even the argument “you’re not big enough yet” wouldn’t work, as they made it by a matter of centimetres. Seriously, it was so high I would have been nervous on it, but they insisted they wanted to do it! They don’t wear nappies now so there was no way I was taking them on that thing… We somehow managed to use enough coercion &/or bribery to get them back to the car without any meltdowns. I think they knew they’d had a terrific day, despite the weather, and they went home happy. We’ll do the helter-skelter next time! Another great day to round off a great Easter weekend!

*He actually thought it was the magician who was inside the George Pig costume, but he had the right idea

Country Kids from Coombe Mill Family Farm Holidays Cornwall

School! When did this happen?!

We were really proud of Jake & Ellie yesterday.

They had a dental check-up first thing. We managed to get there in good time after pulling out all the bribery & corruption stops in getting their teeth cleaned!

When there we found some great books that we enjoyed before going in. Jake & I are still waiting to hear what happened to the terrible pirate who got seagull-poo in his eye…

On the dentist’s chair they thought it was all a hoot, & actually seemed to enjoy having their teeth examined. They really enjoyed the retro-style dark glasses too. I just wish I’d taken some photos: they looked very coool.

Their teeth are fine, by the way: Jake has all his & Ellie has her last one coming through. We had suspected she’d been teething recently.

In the afternoon we went to our first meeting at the primary school where they’re starting pre-school next month! The presentation was a little chaotic, to be honest, & we couldn’t hear a lot of it due to nearby noisy children. But the staff were very pleasant & seem competant, & the facilities seem excellent.

We were so pleased though that Jake & Ellie really enjoyed themselves, & seemed at home straight away. It helps that their 3 friends from Karen’s little group are there too. We planned it that way, & it’s the reason we chose this school.  I so love it that they have been & are making good friends like this.

Ellie especially seemed as if she’d been there all her life: she loved it! After only a few minutes it was “‘My school” this, & “My school” that; “My school has milk and biscuits!” she said to me excitedly.  She cried when we had to leave, so we let her play in the playground for a few minutes.

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Jake could be heard laughing loudly from the adjacent room while playing at the sand-table. He then became slightly fixated at the unfeasibly large numbers of Spider-Man action figures there, and introduced himself to everyone by backwards bear-walking between the seated parents & the projection screen, then back again! He was being Spider-Man, obviously.

They were even well-behaved in the supermarket afterwards.

I love these little guys! All the time, obviously, but I feel especially fond of them when they make us proud like this.

I still can’t get over how grown-up they are now too. They’re little people now, no longer the helpless little babies they once were.

Times change, & life goes on…

Activities for Active Twins

Back in our old family home near Brum, in what now almost seems like a different life, we used to take Jake & Ellie to loads of really good regular activities; particularly in their 2nd year. There were playgroups at a local nursery, each slightly different, with arts & crafts, messy play, reading, puppets, musical instruments & singing + signing. They were excellent, & it was a great shame when they had to stop due to budget cuts just before we moved. There was also a great church-run playgroup, Tumble Tots, & a home & away playdate.

Since moving to Wales & their spending much of Mondays – Thursdays with Karen’s little group, as a preparation for Nursery, we haven’t done that so much. Karen takes them to a church playgroup but, apart from Tumble Tots until the local franchise went belly-up, that was about it.

Just recently though we’ve found a couple of brilliant activities for them. I think it’s partly that they’re old enough now that they’re able to take on more mentally & physically demanding activities. They’re both on a Friday, which may account for why I’m often so tired on that day!

In the morning – after grocery shopping, which is always fun* – we do Monkey Music. There they learn rhythm, playing percussion, associating actions with sounds & music and some basic dance skills. It’s great, & they really enjoy it.

We’ve also discovered a children’s gym, where we go after they’ve had a nap. It’s huge! It caters for all levels, from the casual user (us) to serious competitive & successful gymnasts. It’s a real find: there’s everything you could imagine there & more: a big central space with soft things to roll or jump on, in or over. Things to throw & kick. A bouncy castle with a climbing wall & slide. A trampoline, a little running track, vaults, parallel & non-parallel bars, beams, rings, a rope swing. Not only all that but the apparatus available seems to vary each week.

What they are brave enough & physically able to do has been a real eye-opener for us, & they seem to be able to do more each time.

And do they enjoy it?

They seem to…

*Sarcasm, yes

Manners

We were at Monkey Music on Friday. It was noisy, but then it’s supposed to be.

Ellie said something to the Mummy, & they then started to make their way out of the room together.

As she headed out Ellie went up to the group leader & in her piercing little voice, loud enough to be heard clearly over the singing, music & various assorted percussion, shouted “I NEED A POO!”.

To her great credit the group leader managed to keep on singing while trying not to fall about laughing.

You may laugh – I did – but actually she was just excusing herself. Walking out on a group without a word? That’s just rude isn’t it?

She was just being polite!

Makes me kind of proud.

The kids are alright but I think we’re in trouble

This afternoon the Mummy suggested: “Why don’t you take them out for a S-C-O-O-T while I’m cooking dinner?”.

Ellie, in a quiet little voice: “Scooting?”

The Mummy & I look at each other, fear etched into every pore.

I try to whisper “How did she know that?! Maybe it was just a good guess?”

“Jake & Ellie, do you know what S-C-O-O-T-I-N-G is?”.

“Scooters”.

Both of them.

This could change the world as we know it.

What if we can no longer spell I-C-E C-R-E-A-M?! Or C-H-O-C-O-L-A-T-E?!

I’m really hoping it was just a good guess.

But we could be in very serious trouble here…

I did take them scooting. But it was a bit cold & wet so we didn’t get very far & went back inside after not too long.

“The kids are alright”: you see what I did there? The Who? Mods? Quadrophenia? Scooting around Brighton? No?

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3 is the Magic Number

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Jake & Ellie turned 3 today!

I don’t know where the time has gone. It doesn’t seem so long ago that they were gurgling, cute little babies. Now they’re running, jumping, talking, pants-wearing, sociable, smart little people. In a few weeks they’ll be in uniform when they start Nursery at a local school.

School! They’re growing up.

They had a junior knees-up on the weekend with friends so today we wanted to celebrate at home with family: me, the Mummy & her Mum & Dad. I think that’s just how they like it.

We went for a scoot to the playground but didn’t last long as the wind was bitingly cold, & they had a bit of a grizzly journey back. After that I had hoped they would have a nap, especially as Ellie woke early this morning, but they didn’t.

So after lunch when the Mummy got home early from her work & it was Party Time they were a little tired, but it didn’t stop them enjoying themselves!

They had a fantastic array of cards & presents. I was hoping to save what I thought was the best until last, but…

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MINE, ALL MINE! Vis zis my new Leap-Pad I vill CONQUER ZA VORLD! (In a really terrible German accent)

We couldn’t stop her in time. And of course, no Judy without Punch…

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Jake is delighted to finally have an ‘iPad’ while Ellie continues to formulate her plans for World Domination.

I was glad to see though that life didn’t suddenly grind to a halt with the advent of a fancy screen: there were still more exciting discoveries ahead!

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Ooh, what’s this?!

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I’m three!

And actually we may have saved the best ’til last:
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Enjoying some new toys: throwing & catching a talking ball

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After much cake was ate we did manage to get them down for a much-needed nap, using the excuse of driving off to buy more batteries!

Then it was dinner out, a rare treat; but not before Jake had a good ‘getting to know you’ session with his new techy toy
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They were almost well-behaved! A lot of sausages, chips, sundaes & cheekiness later we said fond farewells to the Mummy’s parents & headed home.

The helium balloons Jake & Ellie blagged on the way out provided a lot of entertainment before everyone collapsed in a tired heap, Ellie somehow managing to fall asleep while still clutching her balloon!

A great day all round!

3!

Still can’t get used to it…