This post is for The Question of the Week at Multiples And More: “What keeps you up at night? What helps you get to sleep?”
I’ve slept ‘like a baby’ just about every night since the twins (now 10 months) were born – sorry! And, by the way, that doesn’t mean that I’ve snorted, tossed & turned, & woken up every 2 hours crying for milk!
No, I’ve slept soundly.
With twin babies, especially in the early months, we were constantly sleep-deprived, so “Will I be able to sleep?” wasn’t the issue; it was more “When can I sleep? Now? Please?! I’m really ti…ZZzzzz”"
It’s better now, but I’m still regularly awoken by a restless baby during the night & more often than not end up taking them in with me. And then I get woken up with them at around 5am.
Not that there hasn’t been plenty to worry about, of course.
In the early days: SIDS , health worries, the “What-Ifs” developmental worries about whether they might not be quite ‘right’ mentally or physically.
Now they’re experts at crawling, negotiating obstacles, pulling themselves up, cruising & standing unaided. Jake especially has a fantastic turn of speed. It won;t be long before they’re walking. So now we worry about them hurting themselves, falling over, falling off a bed, down steps, etc. Just this evening Jake amazed me with how fast he was able to zip across a mattress. I only let go for a second & he nearly made it to the edge! I plan to do a lot baby-proofing around the house this weekend!
We also worry about the kind of people they’ll become. We want them, primarily, to be happy. We’d also like them to be, at the risk of sounding soppy: nice. The sort of people who give to life & not just take from it. We’re hoping they’ll be both.
None of these keep me awake at night, though!
It may be to do with my gender. I prefer to think however that it’s because we are doing everything we can to give them the best lives we can. We’re lucky in that we’ve both been able to be at home with them all their lives so far, so they get all the attention & TLC that they need. We are always there for them, we play with them a lot, teach them what we can amidst the fun, comfort them, feed them & clothe them. And I think it shows in their development so far: they are just delightful. Physically they’re developing really well, their heath seems to have stabilised, they laugh & play a lot, they’re feeding well.
They are greatly loved & I think they know it. They seem happy.
So, yes I worry; there’s always something. But not enough to keep me awake at night.
- Jake’s Literary Appreciation Class (whiskeyforaftershave.wordpress.com)
- Science of the Obvious: Beauty Sleep Is Real & Tired People Look Tired | Discoblog (blogs.discovermagazine.com)
- Moms Heed Advice on Baby Sleep Position (webmd.com)
- Preventing Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) (brighthub.com)
- I’m so tired. (emilylhauserinmyhead.wordpress.com)