I went to my local grocery shop yesterday. I had a little money in my pocket (for a change!) and I needed food to eat; it’s just something we all do when we need to.
As I entered the shop I saw a friend going in at the same time.
Now I won’t bore you with the details, but I’m going through a hard time at the moment, a lot of which is about my being very limited in how much I spent there, & my making a beeline for the bargains section. Among other things.
It’s summer here in Wales, allegedly. We’ve had some nice days, but this wasn’t one of them. It was raining heavily, cold and windy.
In short, I wasn’t in the best of moods.
I greeted my friend when I caught up with her: “Hi Liz”; she replied in kind.
In my very British way, as I often do, I then said ironically, “Nice day isn’t it?”.
Because as far as I was concerned it wasn’t. But, you know, I was muddling on through anyway, as you do.
Her response? She turned around, with a big smile on her face, and said, “Yes, it is!”.
She seemed completely genuine.
It wasn’t! But to her it was. I was taken aback!
That changed my mindset.
Yes, the weather was terrible.Yes, this, that and the other. And I know my friend has problems of her own, as do we all. Yet it was still “a nice day”!
It was a nice day because she had decided it was. So it was!
Yes, I was broke. Yes, the weather was awful. Yes, this, that, the other, and everything else. But I could still decide it was “a nice day!”.
Yes, I have problems, at the moment it seems too many. But compared to most of the world’s people I’m lucky. I’m not starving. I have a roof over my head. I don’t live in fear of being bombed. I have friends. And I have my music.
Today is a good day! I’m gonna make it that way.
A guest post by Karl Wittgenstein
If parents ask who you want to see your child in the future – rich or poor – the majority, of course, respond that they want to see their son-daughter affluent and career perspective. But you need to understand: a financial genius does not wake up by itself in the child – it is important to lay the foundation in early childhood.
So, today we will talk about proper financial education of children.
Tip 1. It would be the best option to instill a financial culture in children by your personal example, experienced parents note. A talk or deliberately simulated situations have much less influence than the behavior of parents and others. If the child is taught to save money with words, but he sees the parents who splash them out, it is unlikely that the child will listen to the words. In this case, actions will be much more influential. Therefore, it is desirable for the parents to understand whom they want to bring up: an altruist, ready to share the “last shirt”, or an economical person. Then you can develop a strategy for training such a person.
It’s better not to speak about the money, but it is necessary to teach the value of things in the first years of child’s life. We need to educate the careful attitude to things, even toys, and explain: this thing is expensive, it is necessary to treat it gently and carefully and put them in place because if the thing breaks, parents will not be able to buy the same. Parents should understand that they do not need to react like “It’s okay” when something is broken deliberately or because the child is too unmindful. This lays the improper attitude toward money in the future and one day your child will not only splash out the whole month-budget but impudently ask you “write my essay”.
Tip 2. With the three or four years old child it is already possible to explain what money is. It is necessary to show the child coins and banknotes and explain the difference between them, for example,you can explain why the banknote is more valuable than coins (although there is only a piece of paper alone, and there may be lots of coins). When your child is five or six years old, according to the psychologist, it is advisable to explain to children where the money comes from. In this case, there will be an occasion to talk about the professions, it is important to explain to the child that the money does not appear from anywhere. Explain that you earn them by working hard. Then if it is possible, show what you do all the day round when you are at work. This approach triggers respect for parents.
Tip 3. Play role games
The Proper attitude towards money is better formed in the form of a game, according to the parents: the nature of finance is complicated, so it is desirable to make the whole process both entertaining, informative, and understandable. You can imagine that you are in the hospital, at a hairdresser, in the shop, train or even play the traditional” Monopoly “- imitate real situations where you can use the money. These games are useful because they can be played with the whole family, and you will be able to monitor the behavior and emotions of the child and if.. your child has committed financial errors you can suggest how to fix them”.You can make fake money by yourself or with a child: cut paper and paint – it is, in particular, develops fine motor skills.
Tip 4.Cash. How much and how often should we give our children pocket money – a topic for another conversation. According to parents, allocating small amounts of money should be when a child has learned to read and write. It is important to establish clear rules of financial relationships within the family. Pocket money for children — is a salary for them, so appoint this salary once a week , because they still do not know how to plan the expenses and all the monthly budget can be immediately spent on candies and other things. In fact, the child.. can be given the freedom of choice in the purchases, but it is desirable to restrict purchases of unhealthy sodas and chips. It is useful to give a piece of paper with a table on it, where it is necessary to fill in the column “balance at beginning of the period”, column “income” (ie money that can be made by cleaning house or helping grandparents etc), column “expenses” (where the child writes down all your expenses for a week + in total) and the column “ending balance”. As long as parents do not get this report from the child, a new piece of pocket money is not issued.
As for the size of the amounts for pocket costs, psychologists recommend allocating money for specific purposes – transportation, lunch in the dining room or on the cinema, for example. “But if the child says he needs more money, ask him to sign the budget and justify why he needs the increased amount.
Tip 5. Family saving
Many parents do not like to go with the kids to the store because the smallest one will need to buy all the sweets and toys there. Experts advise not to be afraid to reply “no”, but always explain the reason for the refusal.
If your income does not allow to buy an expensive toy, then talk about it directly. It is better to say that the entire income is spent not solely on toys but on utilities, food, and travel. But you can postpone the purchase, for example, each month put aside 1/3 the cost of the toy and you will be able to buy it, but it is important to keep the promise if you do not want to lose the trust of a child.