School – even pre-school – changes things!
In April Jake & Ellie started pre-school on a trial basis for a few hours & a few days a week; this term they’re there for the full 5 days.
We’ve been exercising our option of taking them out at 1.15 rather than the full day to 3.30 but now they’re actually asking to stay on!
They’re doing the full day on Wednesdays now & we’re thinking about doing other days as well. We’re still wary as we’ve heard from other parents & teachers that a full week can be just too tiring for 3-year-olds so we’re taking it slowly – especially given that they also do 3 classes now (music, gym, dance) as well as school. It was 4!
The question now is: where does that leave me?
With more time on my hands, for one thing!
For their first 2 years I was a full-time stay-at-home Dad; in their second year I was their main carer. In their 3rd year they started spending regular time away from us in Karen‘s little playgroup, as preparation for pre-school.
It’s been a gradual adjustment for me as well but with their spending more time away from me I of course have more time where I’m not having to look after them.
I am one of those people who will always have too much to do & not enough time to do it in no matter how much time I actually have, but the question still remains: what should I do with this extra time?
One thing always sticks its hand up first, like that speccie kid at the back of the class who’s as persistent as Harry Potter’s Hermione but even more annoying…
Notice I didn’t say “Work”. I already work. Raising children is “Work”; you just don’t get paid for it. I’ve said here before that looking after Jake & Ellie, especially in their first year, has been the hardest job I’ve ever had.
If you’ve been following my recent twoaning (that’s ‘twitter moaning’ in case you’re not sure – and yes I may have just made that up) you may have picked up that money is a bit tight here at the moment. I don’t mind admitting it – it’s not as if we’re alone in that regard!
I was made redundant sometime before the twins were born, which was how I naturally fell into full-time Daddying.
The industry I was in is a fast-moving one at the best of times & I’m sure after all this time will have left me a long way behind. I’m not even sure my previous experience will even count for much now.
So basically I’m a bit stuck; if I’m to go back into part-time or even full-time employment I’m not really sure what I can now do. Ideally I’d like to continue to work from home, & maybe also set up my own small business.
What I am sure of is that whatever I do I’ll probably need some sort of retraining, or refresher course.
I have to be honest: the prospect of a bit more spare cash & the financial independence I once enjoyed is an enticing one! For instance a lot of the tech that I rely on & enjoy is breaking down & I just don’t have the spare cash to replace or upgrade it, which is very frustrating.
On the other hand I already miss not spending as much time with Jake & Ellie & the last thing I want is to be out working so much that I hardly see them – even though I know that sometimes that’s just unavoidable.
Times change, & life goes on. What to do now? I really don’t know, but I’m working on it…
This is a sponsored post, however all the words – even the long ones – are mine; & actually it’s a post I’ve been meaning to write for a while anyway 🙂
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